The Hard Lesson Every Smart Engineer Needs to Learn

“You can’t judge a book by its cover,” they say. But boy, were they wrong about me.

Yahoo, 2010. Great America campus. Engineers bookended by managers :)

I was the hotshot software engineer at Yahoo, assigned to a complex design task by my boss’s boss, Vivek.

The stakes were high, but I knew I had it in the bag. Little did I know, I was about to learn a hard lesson.

Over the weeks, as I worked on the design, I began to feel increasingly isolated, finding it difficult to connect with my colleagues.

I couldn’t understand why my interactions with others often left them frustrated or disinterested.

Vivek, noticing my struggles, scheduled a follow-up.

“How’s the design coming along?” he inquired.

“Done,” I responded, pride coloring my voice, as I presented my laptop screen.

Vivek listened intently as I walked him through the design. He then asked,

“What does the QA team think about this? Have you worked with them to ensure it meets their needs?”

“Met them yesterday. No questions.”

Vivek furrowed his brow and remarked,

“That’s odd. I just met them.

They know nothing about this design.”

Baffled and defensive, I recounted my interaction with the QA lead, insisting they lacked the necessary knowledge to comprehend my awesome work.

Vivek stopped me mid-sentence and dropped another bomb:

“They think you’re an asshole.”

Ouch. That hurt.

“I know you’re not one,” Vivek continued, “but that’s the impression you’re giving.”

Feeling cornered, I asked, “What can I do?”

“This is your design, and you are the best person to discuss it. If you cannot communicate it effectively, all this work would have been a waste.”

Vivek’s words hit me like a ton of bricks.

I realized that my arrogance and poor communication skills were hurting not just me but also my team.

At that moment, I decided to change, though I knew it wouldn’t be easy.

“So how do I convey my message if they can’t understand it?”

“Your message is your responsibility,” Vivek advised.

“Deliver it in a way that ensures it’s perceived as you intended.”

I swallowed my pride, worked on my communication skills, and got my act together. It wasn’t a walk in the park, but it paid off.

I learned to listen, ask questions, and, above all, empathize with my team. My career took off like a rocket, and I became the go-to guru for top engineers at Yahoo, SAP, and Microsoft.

Thanks, Vivek.

But the most crucial lesson?

Take extreme ownership of your words.

Here’s my challenge to you: step back, reevaluate your communication style, and learn from my missteps.

You might unlock your full potential and forge deeper connections with others.

Bear in mind, it’s not enough to be a whiz in your field.

But mastering the art of conversation transforms your potential into reality.

I guarantee it.

That’s why I built the Top Engineer Method.

It’s for engineers who can see the future but struggle to make others see it too.

Learn more about the Top Engineer Method.

Because communicating your genius is how the world experiences it.

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