When I was starting out as a software engineer, I had a boss who was always on my case.
Picture this: an urgent project, a looming 8 pm deadline, and there he was, orbiting my cubicle incessantly. His fourth check-in before 3 pm was met with my robotic 'All good' response. But deep inside, I was a brewing storm in a teapot.
The fifth time, something snapped.
I put up a sign next to my desk: 'Dogs and Managers are not allowed.' He read it, chuckled, and for the first time that day, retreated. I felt victorious, rebellious, almost heroic. But in that moment of triumph, I was blissfully unaware of a crucial blind spot.
Fast forward a decade, and the universe, with its ironic sense of humor, put me in my old boss's shoes. Suddenly, I was the one craving updates from my team, who echoed my past self with their vague noncommittal 'All good' responses.
It was a slap-in-the-face realization - I had become the character I thought I had left behind.
Here’s what I figured out:
1. Micromanagement is a Two-Way Street
My old boss wasn’t the villain I painted him to be. He was in the dark because I kept him there. He was just fumbling for a light switch that I never showed him.
2. The Art of the Detail
I learned that the devil isn't just in the details; it's the guardian angel against unnecessary check-ins. Sharing progress – the what, the why, and the how – is like giving someone a map in a labyrinth.
3. We Forge Our Own Shackles
By holding back information, we often sculpt our bosses into the micromanagers we despise. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Sometimes, the roles we resist are the ones that offer the most profound lessons.
Dare to look into the mirror of your past. The reflections might just reveal the leader you are destined to become.
Communication is key!
I loved the story, I can totally relate :)
There were so many things that I thought to myself I’d change when I’ll be the manager - and I had the fun experience of my employees telling me about the exact same things… being too control freak / micromanaging is one of them.
It being a 2-way street is a great point, that is often overlooked.